Saturday, August 5, 2017

Power Up Your Life & Make Stress Work 4 You: excerpt # 11

Strategies to Combat Stress

General tips

Set yourself a mission
Even if it must inevitably change over the years, this will give a positive direction to your life and increase your personal value.
In the beginning, set yourself short, medium and long term realistic objectives.  Adhere to the principle that small gains create the necessary confidence to work up to larger ones.  Your sense of personal achievement will then be enhanced from victory to victory.  Always remember to reward yourself whenever you reach a goal.

Develop means to develop your objectives

Elaborate a strategy
Having a plan is reassuring as it helps to better evaluate the actions to be taken.  Write the plan down.  'Plan your work and work your plan'

Establish and manage priorities
Make a list in order of importance of the tasks to be accomplished in a day, a week or a month, etc.  Start the day by the most crucial task.  Therefore, if you're short of time at the end of the afternoon, the most important tasks will have been accomplished.

Manage time.
Take 15 minutes each evening to assess the time that will be needed to go through each items on your list of priorities for the next day.  Add all times.  If the total time exceeds the number of hours that you have planned for your day, look for shortcuts, or eliminate altogether the less important tasks.

Manage details
When an idea occurs to you, add it to your list of things to do.  Keep an inventory of things to say or do for each person (especially the difficult ones) with whom you have to frequently deal with.

Commit to exercise regularly
Promise yourself that no matter what happens, you will exercise two or three hours per week.  This will help eliminate the excess build up of negative energy.  Take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk instead of driving for short distances, play golf, jog/run, etc.

Commit to practicing relaxation
Book at least fifteen to twenty minutes a day to practice relaxation techniques.  This will re-boost your physical and mental energies.

Eat healthy food and limit your tobacco and alcohol consumption.

Establish goals to stimulate the left hemisphere of your brain (intellect/memory)
Take courses: music, languages, mathematics, psychology, computer, and so on.

Establish goals to stimulate the right hemisphere of your brain ( creative imagination)
Sing, play a musical instrument, paint/draw artistically, tel stories to your children, etc.

Learn to recognize that your most important task is to take care of yourself
Therefore, treat yourself with respect, humour, adventures, dreams and treasured memories.

Finally, to conclude this segment and to maximize the effectiveness of our programme, the following actions need to be undertaken:
List things to enhance your quality of life
Clarify your personal values
Identify your irritants
Analyze what motivates you
Express your emotions
Learn how to become more sensitive
Accept that, as long as you're human, you will always need tenderness, passion, and personal pride.


Dr. Pierre Milot, Ph.D., Ph.D. (tc)
Therapeutic Counsellor - Relationship/Grief/Stress Coach - Author
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Canada: 613.360.9917 - USA: 813.515.4875

Thursday, August 3, 2017

Rising From The Ashes of Loss, My Voyage Through Grief: excerpt # 28

Chapter 8

April 22 to August, 2008
Anger - Resentment - Bitterness - Irritability - Bargaining.
This period was mainly dedicated to completing the five treatments left in the first round of chemotherapy.   The rate was one treatment every two to three weeks and before each session, a blood test was required to make sure that Louise’s white blood cell count was high enough to sustain the treatment successfully.  The sessions were long, exhausting and scary for her as she always had an aversion for needles to the point that she almost fainted at the mere sight of them.  To top it off, her veins were minuscule which made the treatments even more difficult and painful, a fact that was about to transform her life into a real nightmare in the months to come.
Finding a good vein to work with had become quite an undertaking for the oncology nurses.  The multitude of tests, blood work, scans and treatments rendered her veins so fragile and sensitive that eventually there was no other choice but to stab her through the veins at the top of her hands.  A very sensitive spot and anyone who’s ever had an injection there can vouch for that.  Imagine spending six to eight hours lying on a bed with a bunch of tubes and needles painfully stuck in your hand while burning liquid is being pumped through your body; it was a soul troubling experience.  
It was terribly hard for me to see her like this, all wired up like a damn robot, wincing and suffering.  My protective side was taking quite a beating and at times I wanted to scream my frustrations, rip out all this paraphernalia, take her home, pump her full of pain killers, let nature take its course and allow her to die painlessly in peace and dignity.  If only we would have known the outcome of our journey then, this may have spared us a lot of suffering and anguish and would have achieved the same results, but only sooner.  
Nevertheless, it was mainly her decision to take the treatments and she would go all the way regardless and I knew it.  She was that kind of a person.  There was nothing I could do but reluctantly stand guard, 'suck it up' and swallow my resentment.  
Little did I know then that shutting my big mouth would also be a prudent attitude to adopt all through these tribulations.  As we were soon about to find out, making waves and going outside the 'system' was not a prudent thing to do.


Dr. Pierre Milot, Ph.D., Ph.D. (tc)
Therapeutic Counsellor - Relationship/Grief/Stress Coach - Author
Online - Phone - One-on-one consultations
Info or free evaluation
Canada: 613.360.9917 - USA: 813.515.4875